I really liked how my last blog on principles was received, so here are a few more that I live by:
I tell people what I need.
I have found that the more I share what I need in my life, the more people respond…positively. So telling people – especially those closest to us – what we need, is a powerful way to be in the world. No guessing required. One caveat: this is about me expressing my emotional needs, not my material wants.
When I feel an impulse to respond or react, I go into awareness mode
How many times has a small disagreement spiraled into a full blow argument? How many times have you responded to someone’s opinion or behavior? Tried to push your point? I used to slide down this rabbit hole all the time.
Now, when I feel something come up inside me (a reaction), I do the following:
- I stop.
- I check in with myself
- I look to see why I’m reacting
- I tell the other person what is alive for me
- I listen to what is alive in them
- I take action
Hard to do at times, but critical if you want to relate better with the ones you love.
I never let anyone treat me badly
The last one is very straight forward and simple. No exceptions.