Massive: Things that go “bump” in the night.

I awoke with my heartbeat in my throat.  I wasn’t sure, but my instincts told me something was alive, in me and outside.  From my blurry sleep I caught the dark, massive shadow arch across the bedroom wall opposite to the window.

I didn’t move.  I lay motionless as if frozen to the bed.  Only my eyes moved – peering over the covers – looking for the dreadful return of the mass.

What was it?  I listen, struggling to hear over my racing breath.  Was it a dream?  Maybe a illusion created by the re-entry of my  astral  body during sleep?  My mind raced. My ears hunted.

Meanwhile, the shadow moved swiftly, but silently up the trail away from the house.  Peering over it’s massive shoulders – still tuned to the racing heartbeat it channeled as it moved – the shadow could taste the adrenaline of the sleeper, bitter on its lips.

It would be back.



via Daily Prompt: Massive

Why plan?

Are you happy in your current position? Does your business give you the feeling of success? Does your team have a common focus or goal?

If you answered “no” to any these questions, then perhaps your problem is that you and your business lacks a plan.

So here’s my “tip for the day” – make a plan. Don’t do anything else till you have a plan. Forget about missed opportunities or sales calls or email blast – they are all reactive measures without direction or focus.   There is nothing cohesive to hold everything together.

This only comes with planning.

So bite the bullet and take the time to create a plan for the coming year. Define your goals.  Create strategies.  Evaluate your markets, products and services.  Then look at how and where your sales and social media campaigns fit in.

You’ll begin to see the possibilities.  You’ll be able to say “yes!”

Believe me…it will be well worth it.

The story of sugar: there’s nothing sweet about it.

I highly recommend reading this article by Karen Kingston – Why sugar in our diet is like clutter in our home.

I am an advocate of a sugar-free diet. I believe we are all addicted sucrose and fructose because it’s hidden in virtually everything we eat; even the reportedly healthy stuff.

Give this a read and be well.



Can you express yourself in a debate without blaming the other party? I recently read an article where an opinion was expressed about the “lack of intelligent debate” in our country today?   Why is this?  Can we not have a difference of opinion, yet still come to some kind of working conclusion that doesn’t leave us divided and alienated?

Increasingly, I see the public discourse moving toward division, segregation and alienation.  People are frustrated, lost and secularized.  This is the kind of environment that breeds tyrants and monsters of historical proportions.  We mustn’t avoid what is happening.  We need to speak-up to what is alive in all of us.  We must listen with open hearts and minds to what is being said.  Only from a space of sharing and listening can we DE-escalate from this point of no return.

And at all cost, we must avoid the directing of these powerful, latent feelings on to the shoulders of a “strong man” or “ideal” outside of ourselves.  Martin Luther King Jr. once wrote – ”

“We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny.  Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly”

We must step back from the dangerous edge of despair and propaganda.  With 7 billion people in the world today, we must embrace the path of brother and sisterhood – finding the warm embrace of our communal purpose as human beings, while acknowledging and respecting our individual rights to have security, peace, and freedom.

And it all starts with us making up our minds to “be in community” with other.  Our individual determination to openly share what burdens us and to receive the healing ointment of kindness from other.  We are in this together. Like it or not.

But we must start…now.

A license to kill

We seldom think of how our action, ego driven, can cause a reaction.  Our ego rages away, meanwhile, somewhere else, there is a reaction.  Violence happens.  A life is lost or forever changed.

We could never imagine taking responsibility for the damaged caused by that raging ego.  We don’t understand the concept of cause and affect.  Instead, we avoid our responsibility through denial, projection or worse, blatant ignorance.

When a truth is covered up by fear, bribery, policy, or propaganda, we loose a little bit of our humanity.  When justice is blinded by bias, intimidation or detachment, we offer up a license to kill or maim.

Some say “it’s just the way it is”.  Really?  That is the song of the sleeper, lulled into inaction.





What does the “quality of character” mean to you?

We turn our heads when we see things that are uncomfortable to us – someone berating a child, someone committing a violent act against another person or property – we simply look the other way.

On a national level, we seem to unflinchingly ignore the serious characters flaws in our political candidates…whom we elect anyways.

So I ask you this – what does “quality of character” mean to you?  Why do we give so little conversation to this concept?

I believe this is an important conversation that we as a country need to have…soon.


A Plea – Do we walk upright?


And I heard, as it were, the noise of thunder:
One of the four beasts saying: “Come and see.”
And I saw.
And behold, a white horse.

There’s a man goin’ ’round takin’ names.
An’ he decides who to free and who to blame.
Everybody won’t be treated all the same.
There’ll be a golden ladder reaching down.
When the man comes around.

When the man comes around….Johnny Cash

This post is dedicated to the Water Protectors under siege in North Dakota. May their story and stand be told for generations to come.

Man is said to be the highest life form on this planet due to our ability to walk upright.  Interesting concept of measure.  When I see how we treat each other and especially those who we see as different, I seriously question the validity of this claim.  Our blatant disregard for the rights of peoples and their way of life tells of a society who walks with their heads down – ashamed to look up for seeing the truth of what we’ve become.

We may walk upright, but we do so hollow and contorted.

My fellow man, woman and child.  Look up and open your eyes.  Our land, air and water are sacred to all of us.  We shall all be called to answer for what happens here.  No one escapes from this calling.

Let us stop this devastating action that has short-term gain for the few with long-term consequences for the rest of us.

Look up and walk tall.


Taking Action – in love and relating

I would like to share my relationship story.

My partner (we’ll call her M) and I met at a retreat and quickly became attached at the hip.  We dated for three months, then I moved in.   A therapist once commented that we got our relationship equation backwards –

you two had started relating before dating and mating

Things were rocky at first, but we both had a desire to be together, so we became active in creating better ways to relate. Today M and I have a deep, rich relationship that continues to grow in wonderful ways.

What did taking action in our relationship look like?

M and I both have a strong desire to grow.  But to make our relationship work, we quickly learned that our relating improved when we brought the fruits of our personal growth back to our fold.  For example, M has spent two long stints, six months each, working along with her colleagues at a school of meditation.  While there M set intentions for herself like – to get better at witnessing other or working on her fear of public speaking – as part of her process.

For my part, I made a daily practice of meditation and delved deep into the world of men’s work.  I concentrated my efforts on determining my direction in life and changing old belief systems.  For example, seeing myself as a fully capable man and not as someone broken or less worthy (self-esteem).

What will help my relationship grow?

Relationships are dynamic, fluid and gardenesque in that they need to be constantly nurtured and worked.  Here are a few tips I share that have helped me greatly in building my relationship:

  1. Communicate, communicate, communicate
  2. Take full responsibility for how you feel and express it; always and at all times
  3. No silent treatment.  If you go there, refer to the first two bullets
  4. Practice the art of listening like your life depends on it
  5. Know where you are going in your life and take action
  6. Make a commitment to your relationship, then stick to it

We bring our stuff into all that we do in our lives; including how we relate with others.  Making a commitment to be in a relationship means being present, real and vulnerable. It also means bringing oneself fully into the interaction so to recognize the parts of ourselves that can be challenging in relationship.  No one is perfect, so give each other the room to make mistakes.  It is after all a grand experiment with infinite possibilities.

Lastly, just remember to breath.



Our word is everything

Recent events have reminded me of the importance of the word we give, the promises we make, and their connection to our character.

What is spoken in goodwill, should not be undone….for any reason. Broken promise litter the space of our connectedness leaving those who have seen the promise broken, scarred and bitter.  Too many people are willing to give up their word (and thus their character) for the sake of power, greed and/or bias.

In a better world, our word is our stamp of “being in the game, respectful and present”.  It represent who we are here and above.

Should we have to settle for anything less?

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